Why Can’t They Just Stop?

Overcoming a gambling problem can be hard for family and friends too. Bethany looks at how relationships are impacted by problem gambling and how GamCare can help.

Very often our callers and clients who are affected by someone else’s gambling ask us ‘Why can’t they just stop?’ or ‘How can I make them stop?’

The first question is complex, the latter is simple. You can’t.

The way that a gambling problem affects someone is individual. Each person has different reasons for gambling; they will have an individual relationship with gambling, they will have different reasons for wanting to stop and a different combination of tools and support will help each person.

Your actions may make the journey smoother, but each person has their own choices to make which will set them on the road to recovery.

People who have a gambling problem often experience negative consequences because of their actions. This can include financial struggles, mental health problems and relationship breakdown. As somebody who has been affected by another person’s gambling problem, you might have experienced similar gambling-related harms, and your emotions will also be going through the wringer.

Know that there is help on hand, for you and for them.

You can talk to our advisers now, or you can arrange support through a GamCare practitioner. Our team can listen to what’s going on for you and offer practical tips and advice on how to move forward, gain a better perspective of the situation and figure out for yourself where a relationship may start to be repaired, as well as ensuring you are looking after your own wellbeing.

If you have yet to raise the subject with your loved one, try not to make assumptions about why they gamble, just discuss what you have observed. Take time to think about what you want to say. Encourage the person to see the consequences of their behaviours and its effect on you. It might help to write your feelings down.

You can also consult out support leaflet which can give you additional advice and information to help you through this situation.

We’re here for you when you need us. Get in touch today.